About waking up early

November 17, 2011

So according to the following article, waking up early is “the secret to being a power woman”.

I don’t know a mother with young children who doesn’t wake up early…does this mean they’re all power women? I’d like to believe so!
I wake up early, not as early as Ann Curry (3:45am ??), but the days I wake up “earlier”, I exercise. I LOVE those days…I feel happy, energetic, fulfilled and am much more proactive at work. I actually get to work on time those days rather than the days I wake up early and don’t exercise. Go figure.

Tomorrow, when your alarm goes off “early”, get up and get going! You’re in for a wonderful day power woman!

Are you a bystander?

November 10, 2011

Photo taken from the British Red Cross campaign "Don't be a bystander. Be someone. Learn first aid."

Have you ever been one?

The following article talks about the Penn State scandal and how Joe Paterno “didn’t act, wrongly”.

I’m guilty on one occasion for  being a bystander: we were in a study group at a friend’s apartment and we could hear the neighbor being violent with his wife, throwing pans and glass bottles at her. We could hear her screaming and yet, the five of us looked at each other without saying a word. It seemed as if we were frozen, no one knew what number to call. I still feel guilty about not being able to react and having had done nothing that day. All I can say is that it’s easy to say “I would’ve had reported it”, yet when you’re in the situation, the bystander effect is contagious.

On another occasion, I overheard a co-worker saying sexually harassing comments in public to some ladies. And it happened again, everyone around him was quiet and didn’t say a thing. I decided to talk to my boss about it and I was asked to literally say what the harasser had said (which was something very uncomfortable to do because there were words that would never come out of my mouth). He thanked me for “reporting” it. Unfortunately, as far as the other women and I are aware, no action was taken.

Is it possible that there are so many bystanders around us? Do you think not acting is wrong? It seems even worse when it’s a football coach committing sex crimes against boys, right?

What would you have done if you had been in any of these situations?

How have you taught your kids that no one should touch their private parts?

A very emotional opinion column from a dragon mom: http://www.nytimes.com/2011/10/16/opinion/sunday/notes-from-a-dragon-mom.html?_r=2

So this is a blog for mothers, mothers are women. Mothers have sons or daughters.

If you are a mother, of either a boy, girl or both, this is a must see documentary: Miss Representation.

It’s crazy to realize how media shapes our idea of everything pretty much – as well as of what women are, how they should behave and what they should look like.

I wonder if this is what stops young women to get promoted in jobs or if what is portrayed in the media is what men think of women. “You can’t be what you can’t see.” (I know this is a generalization, several exceptions exist.)

I have utmost respect for women leaders, they have gone so far. I definitely don’t think it’s a battle against men – unless of course a man thinks that the “downside” about having a woman as president  is “the PMS and the mood swings” – it’s just a necessity to bring both men and women’s opinions, views, votes, representation, and leadership to the table.

During my work experience, I’ve had the privilege of sitting on board of directors meetings (unfortunately not as a director, but as part of the team that reports to them) on two of my jobs. I was the only woman out of 6 men on the first one and for almost two years, I was the only woman  out of 11 men on the second one, until another woman got promoted and then we were two women out of 11 men. That is only 16% and 18% respectively of women seats surrounded by 83% of men seats on board meetings. This is only from my humble experience in a developing country, who has had a woman as vice-president by the way.

Now imagine the impact the lack of “representation” has on policy on women’s issues,  decisions in general, company’s policies on salaries, policies on flex-time, part-time, maternity and paternity leave, to name a few. Think of how our sons and daughters will grow up with a distorted view of women and what they will expect from their life partners when they choose one, if many companies’ and institutions’ decisions are made mostly by men.

Something is very wrong with these pictures, don’t you think? Let’s think of how we as women and mothers are role models to the kids who surround us.

I invite you to take the pledge when you click here. Women are indeed misrepresented.

Cool stuff.

Can a Parent do too Much?

October 26, 2011

Can a parent do too much to mess up their kids’ lives?
Is it good to “always” be there? To give up your life in order to “serve” your kids?
Why and how have parents failed to raise kids who have and have had “everything”, yet feel empty inside?

These are some of the questions that come up in this brilliant article by Lori Gottlieb How to Land Your Kid in Therapy” in Atlantic Magazine.

I’ve read this article several times, and recommend it to any parent who’s interested in raising a productive and happy human being with self-worth.

And here is an article from the New York Times that talks about something very similar from what you’ll read on the Atlantic Magazine article, its titled “What if the Secret to Success is Failure”.

Very cool stuff.

About Happiness

October 26, 2011

I thought this was a cool post on modernmom.com.
There are tons of happiness experts out there, yet, many of us have one or a few in our own homes…

I bet you have tried to refocus your energy while playing with your kids this way, if not, here is a cool approach:

http://www.modernmom.com/blogs/princess-ivana-pignatelli/create-happiness-for-you-and-your-kids

Moms of the World

October 12, 2011

I was very excited to contribute to this post featured on “Anushay’s Point”.

Recommended reading for any mother-to-be: “Moms of the World: How Women Tackle the Myths of Motherhood”.

What do you think?